TirithRR wrote:
Is it just to have ***, or like... really part of the relationship? Cause some guys can't get over that fantasy of two girls at the same time. Personally I wouldn't see it as something lacking from the SO, but just seeing if the SO was willing to fulfill that fantasy.
I guess you could ask him how he'd feel about you bringing another man into the relationship...
Cause in my mind, I could see the extra woman meaning nothing to me, or the relationship. Just being there as a... play thing (ya, bad term) for the fantasy. But on the other hand I can't say I'd enjoy another man in a relationship, regardless of whether or not the SO felt the same way as I would have about the extra woman.
It would initially be just sex and if the person was the right fit and nothing catastrophic happened, he wants someone to bring into our relationship on a more permanent basis. Not like moving in and setting up house with us, but more than just sex. I asked him about bringing another male into the fold and he emphatically denied that. Not that he is homophobic, guys just don't trip his trigger. When it comes to relationships or sex, I am indifferent towards gender. If we hit it off, have chemistry, etc... then it doesn't matter to me whether it is a male or female. The person he has picked for this little experiment and I get along. She is a great person and if I were unattached, I would think about pursuing her.
That's pretty much what he said, that she would just be here to play with us. I'm worried that if it were to happen, I would lose him to her. They are friends and he likes her. Toward 99% of the female population, he couldn't care less but he likes her and cares for her as a friend. I'm afraid if we do take this further, those feelings will start to grow into something else.