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her first time so her virginty is wasted
Was she saving it to trade in for a new car or something?
Everyone's got a first time (well, heavens willing). But by your
-nth time, the first time is nothing but a memory, be it good or ill. I dare say the vast majority of people aren't with (or probably not even in communication with) their "first".
As the the crux of your post, do whatever you feel comfortable with -- within reason. Don't want to ever smoke, drink, etc? Then don't. Personally I don't think a little pre-21 drinking is harmful in of itself, so long as you're nt driving or anything. You're only young once, after all. Still, if you don't think it's what you want to do right now, don't. You have four years of college to spend getting drunk and making memories.