To the original poster: Home slice, change your attitude quick, or you will never find a group!
First of all you say "u heal i tunat u dont heal i dont taunt". Well that doesn't make sense because you have to start the battle with taunt, then when you health is getting lower the healer should heal, and it's very important to have your taunt established before the healer heals as that grabs aggro. Basically the mob says, if I take out the healer, I win. And it's a lot harder to get aggro back than it is to keep it. If your trying to say it pizzes you off when a healer lets you get lower than what your comfortable with before throwing the heal I understand this. Try asking nicely, "Please don't let me get that low before throwing your heal, I get a little nervous." I've had maybe one guy get snotty with "Don't tell me how to do my job", but generally they just say "kk".
Second you say "u pull i dont peel". I know where your coming from on this, it is annoying when someone else pulls a mob for you, trying to speed you up or whatever. To non-tanks out there, sometimes whe pull slow for a reason, trying to get the feel for how much the group can handle, potential add-on you might not see, or we just suck, LOL. In this case just say, again nicely, "dude I'm the tank, please let me do the pulling".
Bottom line, dude you let someone die for any of the above reasons, with no taunt, the words going to get around, and you will never find a group.
The line about "the names have been changed to protect the stupid", I've heard it before, but I laugh every time I hear it. The part about not wanting to take the first hit, you've got to be kidding me, boot that sob, asap and come find me, that's the tanks dam job, LOL.
I have a few more comments but it seems like they have been covered by at least one or more people in this thread.
GL all!