I know this isn't the best place to ask this.Follow

Hello everyone.

I don't usually post in this part of the forums, some of you might know me from FFXI Main.
Something terrible has happened and I don't know where else to go...this was the only place I could think to come right now, and it's not like me to go asking others for this kind of help, but I'm still in shock right now and don't know what else to do right now. I don't spend a lot of time on the Internet...this is the only place I really go.

In Mid-October of this year, my cousin Stephanie went missing.
It came as not that much of a surprise to the family, and we thought that she would be all right...Steph was sort of on the wild side, and she had run off before and always come home okay. She had some problems, but she was a kind and decent human being...she was in a lot of hurt, and didn't handle it well, but she was a good person.

I received a phone call a few hours ago: my cousin Stephanie has been found dead in Zanesville, Ohio. She was found in the same place another woman was found in 2002: someone murdered her. They don't know who.
She made a lot of mistakes in life, but she didn't deserve that, and she didn't deserve what's happening now.
There is an article about her death in the Zanesville Times-Recorder, here is the link to the article.

My family -- her family -- will not pay for her burial. She was on the wild side, like I've said...I spoke to my sister on the phone, and all she had to say was 'the state will bury her'. I am still utterly speechless at this...I don't know what to say about all this at all. I feel like I'm in the wrong place to ask here, but I don't know where else to go. I loved Stephanie, my family ran her down but she was a good person, she was just lost, she made mistakes.

I am and have always been poor, make no mistake, I am giving everything I possibly can without sacrificing my ability to pay my bills...the money I got for Christmas is all going to this, but it isn't enough.

There has been a trust fund set up to pay for her funeral...my family will just as well let her be buried by the state. If you can give anything at all, even five dollars, please help...I am giving everything I can, but I cannot give enough, and no one else in my family will help. Steph didn't deserve her death and she did not deserve the treatment she is getting now...it doesn't feel right to ask total strangers for help, but I don't know what else to do yet. I feel shell-shocked, just aghast, and I'm desperate to find some way to make sure my cousin isn't relegated to a state funeral as if she had no family at all...I know this isn't the place to come begging, but I don't know what else to do.

Value your families if they love you...love is worth so goddamned much, just ordinary human love is worth so goddamned much. You just don't know until you see the circumstance of someone who had so little of it.

The trust fund address is in the article, and here it is also:

Gallis Fund

c/o Citizens National Bank

P.O. Box 423

Duncan Falls, OH 43734

Anything will help if you can spare it. Thank you for checking...sorry to have posted this here. I feel terrible about it but I honestly don't know what else to do right now.

What is the average cost of a funeral?

Will the bank be deneying donations after a set amount is met?

That's completely okay, I do understand, thank you for the thought Nix. I understand, all I could give myself was $200...I think I would give anything at all to have it to spare right now. Thank you.
I know how it sounds to come onto forums like this and post donation requests, and I honestly do not hold it against anyone who cannot give anything, I know just how it feels. I really didn't know where else to go.



For a very basic funeral, I think the cost is between two and three thousand dollars. When my grandma died (father's side, Steph is mother's side), it cost I think 3.8k to bury her.

As for the donations, I honestly don't know, I just heard about this a little while ago; I don't know how these things work at all. I wish I could tell you, I'll call them and see how it's done in the morning.



Edited, Dec 28th 2006 9:01pm by Sioux

A state burial is extremely unpersonal, cold, and unfeeling.
It would represent that there was no one who knew her in life who cared enough to give her a funeral. The very idea is extremely sad.

I'd vouch for Souix, played FFXI with her for years. I'm sorry to hear that Souix, all I can offer right now are my prayers.

Last I checked (which I did a quick search for), 1.8 people die/second.

Or roughly 155,000 people/day. 56.5 million/year.

Kind of a stupid question. Unless of course you're referring to FFXI players.

Hear hear.

Sounds like copypasta to me.

Read the article dummy.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Is there some sort of closing date for donations? send me the address to send money too and I'll give what I can, I live in England so I'll have to get it converted etc etc and it might take a lil while to get there.

EDIT: you put the Address there (I should learn to read sometime soon).

Edited, Dec 29th 2006 4:30am by remorajunbao

I'm sorry...

You're definitely in my thoughts and prayers and I'll see what I can work out for sending something...

lol I'm sorry hun. Its such a long name and I am so lazy. I can copy and paste, if you like (Unless RJ can be my "special" name for you ~.O)

I can only extend you my sympathy. No one deserves to be murdered. And no murderer deserves to be alive. I'd love to help with the funeral costs but I cannot do that, at least at this time, for reasons that are silly but still hard to explain. But for simplicity we'll call the reasons as a collective whole, wife.

I can only hope that the police will actually figure out who the murderer is. Obviously they have a repeat case about four years apart. And for that, it's obvious, that cameras mounted in the area probably won't help as it could take another four years before another repeat case occurs. Although in my opinion, I'd have cameras mounted into the trees using wireless cameras so they can monitor the area.

Again I'm sorry for your loss and I can only pray that they find the reason(s) for her death and if she was murdered that they find that person and they are brought to justice.