<< being someplace first does not grant you ownership of the zone. >>
I didn't see anywhere he said she had the right to all of Bibiki Bay, so I don't see what the point of this comment was. She was in a small part of it soloing.
It is called being respectful and not a self centered prick. If someone has a camp first you find a new one. You don't just start exping and say well you can find a new place to exp. And yes if your in a war pty and someone is in a camp, you leave. You also don't move into others camps and take there mobs, you wait for the ones in a reasonable area to repop. I realize this doesn't happen in ffxi much anymore, and that is why wow has 8+ million people and ffxi has what under a million. Because all the self centered pricks ruined the game for everyone else and they changed to a game where there is instances so you can't ruin there fun as easy. You also can exp in a billion places instead of a very limited amount. To bad the game is boring to play.
I wouldn't call standing up for a friend as a bad thing. If you claim what they did was ok, then why is what he did. He went to a camp and started to kill stuff that wasn't claimed just like them.
You probably should just have Myst play wow or a different online game. If she doesn't chat much those are better games anyway. FFXI is so slow paced there is plenty of chat time, most of the others it is hard to play and chat.