FFXI PMS, {do you have it?}, war/mnk semi/rantFollow

About a 2 weeks ago I got a week and a half off work. During this time I spent most of my time playing nights and days with my friend on FFXI, over at his house. This is the most time I've ever played consecutive days in a row; but to my point... Why the heck are there so many grumpy people on lately? People complaining about stupid stuff, bad exp due to overcrowding, lack of mages, suiciding to save your party, lack of people to make a full party and other senseless stuff and acting like my sister during her PMS, have you seen these people???; here's a few examples while I was playing as a war/mnk from about lv 16-21/20....
-An undead popping on the party and almost everyone dying(oh well crap happens, deal with it and move on and stop complaining for an hour and a half and threaten to break up the party over no ones fault);
-Our party getting multi-aggro's and then me pulling them off everyone else and suiciding as the tank to get rest of group to zone safely(I got yelled at and threatened to be booted from party for saving everyones butt, high lv75 rdm/whm killing undead that raised me, asked me wtf was up with that);
-Me and the other war/mnk voked the mob of the taru whm and later the taru blm because neither of 2 ninja tanks were voking while the taru mages' hp drop into the double digits, then being yelled at by both the ninjas and the whm for voking and saving the whm(blm thanked us for saving his butt, however);
--Then we both got yelled at about a half our later because neither of us voked the mob off whm and she died when ninjas weren't casting utsi and both their voke timers were at zero;
-Later on when whm and blm disbanded for sleep, the 4 of us, 2war/mnk, nin/war, and thf/nin went back to edge of Qifim and chained the 3 worms near the tunnel and worms in the large area while looking for a mage, the whole time ninja and thf complained about poor exp and no mages and a bunch of other stuff, finally they disbanded and sat there with their flags up for about 2+ hours or so while me and the other war/mnk, invited a rng and chained worms the whole time and passed the ninja and thf up by atleast a level and a half, while the 2 of them took turns shouting across zone about no whm or rdm around their level being on;
-Being yelled at by the ninja's recast utsi partner, a mnk/war for voking the mob off ninja so he could recast his shadows, the mnk/war had this stupid voke macro that whenever he hit it would bring up 3 lines of phrases and then voke, and usually by then the ninja had been interupted a 2nd time casting his shadows and after a while the ninja started yelling at the mnk/war for his stupid voke macro.
***It should be noted that the whole time I was in these groups I always had atleast 30hp more than anyone else in my groups, my evasion was always capped(except for the 2, +attk,-eva earrings), and I always had atleast 10def more and up to 25def more than anyone else in my parties. And me as well as some of the other various group members couldn't figure out why I was only getting hit once in every 3-5 swings by the mobs when I would voke but yet I was not allowed to be the main tank?.....*****
---P.S. on a side note, while fooling around waiting for a party, I found out how to get over that damn rock that you get stuck behind while waiting for the "weapon" to wander off to get around, going both ways, so meh, ;p.