I tend to see dramas to be more common among larger LSs (regardless of type). I do think event or item oriented LS (which a lot of high level LSs are) do tends to cause more friction. I will do say, bad dramas are not limited to "HNM LSs", it is common sight in larger chat or lower level LSs.
The two best LS leader I have met -- Mogknight (Moggie be proud, you are good tarutaru) and Branwen (she, for all pratical purposes, had quited) -- they are very personal and nice, enjoy fun bantering and helpful, and not so much in bragging and item -- both have/had fairly good item and is quite active in end game, and you can feel there are equal to you. They neither like to put other people down -- that is one major problem with larger LSs, you start to have rivalry with other groups and individuals.
I do think, only way to be personal and casual in talking, is to be in smaller LS. Larger LS is always harder to interact, and harder to do things that pleases everyone -- LS leaders and members are just too busy to be able to care individual interests.
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Amanada (Cerberus-Retired) (aka MaiNoKen/Steven)
-- Thank you for the fun times in Vana'diel
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