Patrician, I'd have to whole heartedly agree with the "common factor" thing. People are responsible for drawing to them, and accepting or rejecting, people and their behaviors.
As for this morsel of advice:
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Try this, tell this hot bartender chicky, that you have put in the time to your "relationship", you have been good to her, etc. blah, blah, blah. Tell her you want an answer from her now! Is she going to stay with Goldfish Boy or does she want a real man! Give her a day. Demand a answer. If she leaves little Nemo fine, if not, at least you will not be wasting your time.
***** that. If she's interested, she'll find you. Putting an ultimatim on her is a surefire way to say either "Are you f*cking nuts" or a great way for her to ease that old "friend" line in.
Backing someone into a corner in such a way pretty much guarantees a gut reaction, and usually a harsh one at that.