Um... Wow! You talk about me making assumptions. All I've got to say is: You are soooooo wrong.
My mom found out I was having sex with some girl I was seeing and kicked me out of the house at the age of 18 (Did I mention she is strongly religious?).
I lived in my car off and on for about a year. During that time, I worked odd jobs.
I saved up some money, and got a cheap apartment with a friend of mine.
I scrimped and saved for about a decade. I went to classes at the local community college when I could afford to.
Most importantly, I made friends with people and established a circle of "close" friends and relatives my age in town.
I also started teaching myself how to work on computers. Realize, I was still dirt poor this whole time. I bought my first computer (a 286) from a swap meet for about $250. I then bought bits and pieces and upgraded it myself over several years.
The skills and contacts I made evertually paid off. I got offered a job at a local company that was small, but growing. At the time, they made satellite radio system for fleet trucks.
I worked my *** off. I started as a temp doing entry level computer tech stuff. Basically, I pushed a cart with monitors on it for about a year and a half. But I also learned everything I could about unix computer systems along the way.
I argued for a new support system that aligned the techs according to the departments instead of in general. The idea being that different departments would have different needs. My boss agreed and since I was still the "new guy", I got the department that no one wanted. This small, yukky group, with outdated computers and really annoying requirements. They called themselves the VLSI group and were working on some new experimental cell phone stuff that didn't seem to have any place in the market (and no one thought would work anyway).
Well. I could have just done the minimum, but I didn't. I continued to work my *** off. I worked hard to make friends with the people in thie department and figure out their needs. I taught myself how to automate installations according to the image they wanted. I eventually convinced them to upgrade their systems to something that had been built in the last decade. During this time, I got a promotion to "intermediate tech". The new systems allowed them to do their design work 30% faster then before.
Overtime, this department grew, and more IT folks came over to support it. It seems my idea of aligning techs to departments had caught on, and higher level folks (engineers in IT) were moving to their building to support them directly. We implemented a number of improvements, including a couple platform upgrades, new fileserver systems, improved network. The works. During this time, I got promoted to associate engineer for my efforts.
Meanwhile, apparently the technology caught on. Turned out that it really did work after all. We were able to support a growth that went from taping out a new design maybe 3 or 4 times a year, to taping out 3 or 4 times a week. Huge growth. Huge design problems to overcome from an IT standpoint, but we did it, and I was there from start to finish (ok. We're still not done).
Oh. Once I became a full time tech, I could join the stock purchase program. I did. That and 401k. I put 20% of my income collectively into it, even back when I was only earning about 25k. It seemed like the right thing to do. And I was given options when I made *** engineeer and later when I made engineer. Turned out that the stock that I had been buying for $6 a share for several years went up to $200. Very nice. Seems everyone wanted to buy our cell phone tech. Even the folks who a decade earlier said it couldn't possibly work.
Ok. That's my story. Sure. I got lucky. But my point is that the breaks I got only became big things because I made the right choices at the right time. I didn't have to put money into the stock plan. I certainly could have used the extra cash back then. But I didn't. The moral is that while you can know exactly what you'll get from an investment, you do know you'll get absolutely nothing if you don't invest. Also, hard work may not always pay off big, but a lack of hard work will never pay off.
I worked for everything I have. I put myself in the position where I needed to be, and I did the work that needed to be done. I've been rewarded for that. But if you just sit there and collect a paycheck, and that's the extent of what you do, then that's all you'll ever get. I totally resent someone who tries to say that you must have been given some advantage in order to succeed. I'm living proof that that simply isn't true. In one lifetime, I've gone from living out of my car to living in one of the nicest neighborhood in the county. Again. I got some good breaks. But without hard work those breaks would not have happened. We make our own forture. All of us.