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The folks that are voicing opposition to equal marriage rights are citing doctrine from the bible as justification to not allow same-sex couples to marry.
All of them? Or just some of them? Maybe the ones the folks holding the cameras make sure to focus on when showing the opposition?
Unless you were there and talked to everyone who opposed this change (which you said you didn't), you can't possibly speak intelligently about how those voicing their opposition to this specific legal change were doing so.
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Those on the other side of the issue are, for the most part, arguing their cause based on equality and the negative impacts that many have been victim too for not being allowed to marry.
Why not use the phrase "for the most part" when describing the first group? Think about that, and you'll realize the bias of your own perceptions.
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There is a big difference - if you choose not to 'get' that, it's simply because you're being selectively obtuse.
No. I'm objectively assessing how several people in this thread seem to go out of their way to denigrate and dismiss the opinions of those they disagree with. In this particular case, it's labeling them all as religious fanatics. Honestly, I just got done with a big gay marriage debate. That wasn't my point here. I was just pointing out how perceptions can be skewed by assumptions about those we are perceiving. You view those who you agree with as rational, thoughtful people, and those you disagree with as blind, ignorant, religious bigots.
Ever consider it's really not that simple?
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See if you can figure out the difference between these two statements:
1) My child is not allowed on my health insurance policy because his/her mother and I are not allowed to legally marry.
It's not your child any more than any other friend of mine's child is mine. Labeling the child "my child" is a semantic technique designed to maximize the emotional impact of the statement, but is irrelevant to the real issue at hand.
It's a nice appeal to emotion, with a side of falsehood.
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2) God says it's a sin for man to lie with man. I believe in god, so I deny others the option of marriage based on MY beliefs.
Or maybe they believe we shouldn't be encouraging, let alone rewarding behavior they regard as sinful? Look. I can't speak for the devout religious folks out there, and I'm sure they have strong feelings that are somewhat similar to this. I'm just pointing out how the language changes depending on which side you like the most. Those are much more "different" than the arguments for/against gay marriage.
When giving an example of people you don't agree with, you use terms like "denying others" to describe what they are doing. When describing those you do, you call upon the image of a helpless child in need of care. Care which is denied to them (hah!) by those evil anti-gay-marriage folks.
Both examples use negative language. In the first, gay marriage is "good" because to deny it is to deny the marriage and the child's medical care. In the second opposing gay marriage is "bad" because they're denying the option to marry. Do you see how you basically just restated the same position in mirror image (with the whole child thing thrown in of course)?
Tell you what. I'm going to regret this, but I'll do it anyway. Give me a reason why gay couples should be granted the legal status of "married" under their state law which does not include something being denied to them. I want to hear a "positive" reason. I'm sure you can do it, but I think it might be a useful exercise. It's too easy to argue for something based on what that something is against. I want to hear what it's "for".
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Bottom line is that given two pairs of people, all else being equal, the pair composed of a woman and a man are given the opportunity to marry and bestowed with all the rights and responsibilities granted by that legal union. The couple of man and man or woman and woman are not. This is inequality in gender. Any other arguments are based on opinion or creed.
No. It's an inequality based on biology. It's about the makeup of the couple, not each individual within it.
Here's something to chew your noodle on:
Why might it be perfectly ok to sell two different type of ammunition or two different types of guns to the same person at one time at a gun store, but not to sell the same type of gun and ammunition to the same person at one time and in one store?
And for the record, that is an example of a rational argument (assuming you "get" it).