Most transgender persons I've known knew their gender was different from their sex before they were 5 years old. My ex says (s)he knew at the age of 3 that she was a girl, though when I met her, she was in complete denial, so to please social pressure to be manly. His uncut hair and beard at the time made him look like a lumberjack. Her generation of transgender lived depressing lives trying to be the gender role of her sex, why deep inside they felt wrong. Coming out was something they did at risk of their careers.
Yes when talking about my ex I use different pronouns for different periods of her life. When talking about the period were I was married to my ex, I use male pronouns, while I use female to talk about her current life. She is on hormones, but will never get surgery due to costs and law currently not allowing the VA to pay for it.
Today I'm happy to see some parents are willing to allow their children to live as their gender and not their sex. Doing so they are preventing the mental illness that many of the older transgender people I have know suffer from. Also doing so will prevent them from having to live a lie that often destroys families like mine was. The effects of my ex finally admitting to herself and me that she was a woman gender wise, ripple through my children's lives and that of their children.
Really you think it's hard to live with the fact your child may be a different gender then their sex, imagine how a child must feel dealing with the fact that their grandfather is a woman.
It's a subject we don't talk about with my grand kids. Two of the four, have never met their grand father and don't know anything about her, as my daughter moved away to get away from her and the family drama she creates.
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