The fact that I periodically get harrassed on the game has absolutely no bearing on the fact that Bobbyjai is an asshat
KarmaBum (what's your in-game name, Jenn?), i /salute you. it's been a LONG time since i heard someone use the word Asshat.
now here's my opinion... this is solely for BobbyJai, and not referring to anyone else that "scammed" someone. what would YOU do if YOU were bobbyjai? haven't we all WISHED we could get mad gil in this game?? sure we have. with that in mind, no matter how "noble" we think or claim to be, the thought of ripping someone off has probably crossed your minds. it's not RIGHT, of course, but we're all human. now stay with me... has anyone else been put in the position where they were the party leader, and someone trusted you to share a 4.5 million gil drop???? i sure haven't.... some others out there may have, but VERY few..... so Bobbyjai let his greed get the best of him in ONE situation!!!!!!!! if it was a 5k drop would it be different?? do we CONTINUALLY flame party leaders who quartermaster in a party of n00bs, trying to claim all the fire crystals? nope.
now, continuing on.... his greed got the best of him, and it was lights out. so what are HIS choices right now? quit Final Fantasy XI? sure, it's an option. or start a level 1 character all over. but if you're even READING these threads, than you're addicted to the game also and YOU would never just up and quit. don't lie... you think about the game when you're at work/school. so, that leaves a person with a pretty rough option. to continue to play an online game, BUILT around interaction and people, and be forced into a solo job. and once he accepted this option, people STILL feel the need to pour salt into his bloodline.
now, for those who believe another option is "why doesn't he simply apologize?" who the he77 would he apologize to? there's no single person, not even the JP this happened to. to the masses? wtf. the masses don't even KNOW him, only his "legacy". so it would appear, until we can get over our own righteousness and holyier-than-thou attitude, this guy will NEVER find a good xp party. NEVER so when you run past him and decide to /slap Bobbyjai, just think.... there's someone sitting on the other side of that computer. when you die in a party and it ruins your RL day, he goes through that every day. there IS someone behind the character. more than just polygons.