My entire family plays this game. My mom, Xuna (Rdm69)is always helping people. My dad, Worfoxx (War75) will help whenever he can.
This server is friendly, you just need to find the right people and the right linkshell groups. If you find yourself in a social linkshell, you will want to leave because you wont get any help-just advice. There are two linkshells that are considered to be the *BEST* of the Shiva server: Yellowcake and Vanadielselite. Both of these linkshells have a really good reputation. I dont know too much about Yellowcake linkshell but my mom and dad are in Vanadielselite, and its a nice linkshell. You have to be 50+ to apply on their website to get accepted. They do lots of quests, missions, rank, ballistas, NM hunts, dynamis, CoP, Zilart, and Sky.
This is the type of linkshell you want to look for, a linkshell where you are going to be able to get the help you need so you can help your linkshell as you get higher. If you find the right people and the right shell, you wont be feeling the way you are. It is a nice server but there a many jerks who like to start drama-just be sure to stay away from them.
If anyone reading this forum knows any other good linkshells, i'm sure they will post them as well.