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Me and my new wife Alexial got married yesterday in Sandoria. We had our own wedding with our linkshell and friends. We will still do the square wedding too but we really wanted to be married before the 6 month wait or however long square will be.
We are both very happy and I love Alex with all my heart.

"I lover her with all my heart". if you DON'T know this person in Real Life, then that will mean even LESS when you use those words with your future love in real life. online love... lol how cute and childish. best of luck to ya?

Sadly I have to admit that Grim is right... roleplaying or not, "hate" "love" real emotional words to use in a game. "I love you" isn't meant to be said in a game, I mean... come on... think about it.

You don't need to meet someone in person to begin to know them. You can fall in love with someones heart online, as that's what you'll see.

However, if you want to do something in real life, you need to have that compatibility, but in-game emotions are not to be disregarded.

Oh shut the hell up people and be happy for the man! Book bell and candle... Congradulations man! Hope you two live out the rest of your FFXI days happily together.

Hey not everyone is fake online.. i am me and always have been.. real things can come from this game.. this game was made with the added affect of making it personal. there is no way that at some point this game doesnt move from just being a "game" to something more. i know from experiance. man i wish u the best of luck!!! love is a strong word and shouldnt be used lightly but sometimes the emotions are there. dont say the word unless u REALLY mean it. good luck to the both of u and dont listen to what others say.. just make sure that u and ur new wife are on the same page, that is a number one priority!!!

let's seperate a few things. we have love in Real Life, love found online, and love found through online gaming.

Real Life: don't need to get into this, we all have good/bad experiences. this is, without a doubt, the most surefire way to find people. argue away on it, but it's not worth it. moving on.

Online Dating: pro's and con's. usually when someone sees a pic of you and emails you, at least you know they are interested in what you look like. there's no surprise, unless the picture was a fake. also, through instant messages and onlnie conversations, you can start to put a "true" image to go with the picture you've seen. not a bad way to meet people, but it's still easy to lie through a keyboard. moving on...

FFXI Dating: now, if you just want to roleplay and enjoy the game, then sure, get married. sport your fancy ring, wear your level 40 wedding gear, whatever. but that's not all it ever is, huh? imagine this: you play FFXI for like 1 year, and then you go out and meet a honey working at WalMart. you 2 start dating for awhile, and she says, "oh yeah, i've told a couple people online that i really love them. so if/when i tell YOU that, you'll know it's not that important of a word to me. i mainly toss it around :D" that would set you off... you wouldn't believe her when she told you she loves you, and rightly so. now flip the script. you tell this girl you know online that you love her, but it's just fleeting. well, 98% of the time it is. and THAT moves us into our last section, the remaining 2%.

FFXI couples in real life: being in the military, i've seen alot of "odd" things. Crayola and i may bicker back and forth, and people might think i'm a chode for getting on here sometimes, but i just like to keep the brain working. point is, i've been through Afghanistan and Iraq both, and have seen many MANY strange things, but the WIERDEST thing i've seen is a guy in my unit... he's a FFXI addict, somewhere on the Fairy server. him and his little gang/posse begged me to move there during the server transport in october or whatever. well, he came to a unit BBQ, and he brought his wife. apparently his wife is also huge into online gaming, and she doesn't do anything BUT play online. they share a copy of FFXI for thier PS2, and not on the PC. well, i was playing spades with him and 2 others, and his wife came over. she's portly and pale. i only mention that cuz she fits the stereotype of kids spending their entire youth playing videogames, and have never been on any sort of sports team or group with others (doesn't have to be sports, but you know what i'm saying).

so anyhow, we're playing cards, and she hears that i play FF also. she starts going off about this and that, this and that, and the guys at the table are starting to move away from her... she's becoming very strange. well, her husband starts to argue with her about tarutaru's being paladins... online, that's fine i guess. but in a military environment, where some guys are playing cards, it looks dorkish. don't hate me, i'm just calling it like it is. end result, she told him to fu*k off, she'll play her Taru how she wants to, and this his ninja is a sorry tank. she leaves him to go home to play FFXI....

would you EVER want to marry/date someone else addicted to online gaming? long distance relationships is ok, since you're not around eachother anyhow. but when would you guys leave the house? how do you decide who's turn it is to play? do you need 2 computers now? you wouldn't do ANYTHING together. hell, you'd have to convince him it's time to have sex. but WAIT! he hasn't showered in 3 days, so you don't WANT to have sex with him. plus he doesn't eat right cuz of FFXI, so he doesn't have the stamina for it anymore. plus, hardcore gamers are known for being tempermental in real life. not ALL people, but most. i can't find any hard evidence to back that up, just read it a few places, and i tend to agree.

The Point: roleplaying marriages are cool. gives you and your friends stuff to talk about, and you can replace a non-dating RL with a dating Online life. however, meeting a guy/girl through online gaming and really starting to pursue it simply doesn't have a happy ending. Note to self: you do NOT have to make every mistake in the book to learn by it, you don't have time to do that. Learn from others.

And crayola, we agreed on something? what gives?

gogeta posted immediately after me, and i'd hate to see Nebian read over my post. read 2 posts up man.

Congratulations! I hope you are very happy.

Please disregard what a lot of people here have been saying. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having an in-game relationship. A lot of people don't feel that you should role-play in a role-playing game and will be mean if you try.

99% of people who get into a relationship in a game or get married in a game are very aware of the "in a game" part. Sure, there is 1% nutcases who really think they are married but those horror stories are pretty rare (if well publicised). And sometimes those in game relationships do become real life relationships and are pretty great.

The whole game is based around real feelings. There is no point in playing if the game does not evoke some kind of emotional response. All games do that. The people you play with are real and you can have relationships with them. Part of the reason so many people are rude and mean to others is because they fail to remember that the others are real people.

And don't listen to warnings about relationships. 99% of all relationships (whether in real life or not) end in failure and the 1% that are successful end in death. That's how life is.

Edited, Mon Feb 21 18:45:59 2005 by Meara

gogeta, stop ruining threads with all those negative things u say, let people have fun, thats why they started to play this game anyway.
so if u dont have anyfull usefull to say, dont say it -_-
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