Just because I like to butt my head :D ...
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but yet again, i have to say if you were half the leader mirile was you wouldent have members leaveing in the first place, and the shell you were leading wouldent have folded.
A true leader isn't defined by their ability to make people stay. It's made by their ability to empower others. I could pay everyone on the server 1 million gil a day to join a linkshell. They would do it, too! Does that make me a good leader? After all, I got everyone on the server to join a linkshell and make them stay!
...of course it doesn't. I just have something that everyone else wants, and they're only there to take advantage of it. That's been the downfall to not only many linkshells, but many organizations as well. They advertise "join us and we will do ____ for you." But once whatever you were doing is done...so are your new members. They hop ship to the nearest "Free Cookies" sign.
If there is one thing I know about Alek, it's that he's never offered to give anyone anything. But he's
always been there to support you when you decide to do it for yourself. In my opinion, that's always better than having it handed to you. Yes, it means more work...but it's also more rewarding. When it's all said and done,
you were responsible for getting the item--not him.
Heaven knows Alek doesn't need a n00bish player from Bastok coming to his aide, so that's not why I'm saying this. I'm saying this because people spend too much time asking "What can <insert random linkshell> do for me," and not enough time asking "What do I have to offer them?"
Like I said before, doing things takes work. And when it comes to creating and running an end-game linkshell, making people show up to events, keeping track of points, running chat servers...web pages....heck, making people get along! That's more work than
most of us are willing to put in for
anything (especially a dumb game). It's our $12.95, we'd rather enjoy it!
But Alek...he chose to do it. He didn't have to be there for all of those years helping people get the items they wanted, doing dynamis runs, settling disputes. He had nothing to gain by keeping an entire linkshell running after its leader quit, simply to help others succeed. So agree with him or not, at least appreciate what he did. When people wanted to do end-game full time, he empowered them, helping them to get the things they wanted. And when those same people no longer wanted to do the end-game thing full time, he broke it, but stayed there to continue empowering them get the things they wanted.
Sammm, if you did start your own end-game linkshell, I wish you the best of luck. But if you want to keep from pulling your hair out, it would be best to learn to empower your members...not do things for them. People love having "leaders" who always do things for them. But they respect, and thus learn to follow those who help them succeed.